I don't think of myself as a picky person. I eat almost anything except lima beans and peas (I do however love love split pea soup). I don't really have a favorite color, movie, song, etc. I'm only really picky when it comes to my journals (even here I am getting a little more lax...take heart CCM boys! I am using the notebook from sisters' appreciation!) and pen point size (I have to say 0.5 is the best...anything less is too small). I don't have a favorite farm animal either. I just hate horses.
Lately dating and relationships have been hot topics (actually...when are they not???) but especially more so recently because of Mt. Hermon. Camp is infamous for being a big meat market (ok..camps is also known for other serious things...that I will blog about later...maybe). It has even accumulated different nicknames; Mt. Hormone, Meet-Her-Man, etc. There's "cabin time", "top three", "superficial top 3", and "blanket rules".
It's strange and hilarious watching little high school boys and girls chase after each other. Doing QTs in the same area, eating meals together, bombarding the craft table, sneaky creeper pictures, luring each other with stuffed animals...it is all very bizarre. More frightening than their weirdo game is how quickly the flirtatious behaviour begins. At the most they've met each other the year before and at the least they've known each other a few hours. It's nuts! How well do you really know that person? More than that are you even interested in them for the right reasons?
A month or so before camp I started listening to Rick Holland's "Biblical Femininity" series again. I always get owned in the face, man, I need to work on being a classy biblical lady. I think what stood out to me most this time around was the warning Rick Holland gave repeatedly throughout the first 2 messages. "Ladies, ladies! Choose wisely!"
Holland was preaching through 1 Peter 3 talking about submission and how women are called to submit to their "own husbands", meaning we get a choice in who we decide to submit to. So choose wisely!
The other day I ran into one of my sister's old kindergarten teachers at the mall. The last time I talked to this lady was in 4th grade. She was telling me about everything she'd been up to since then like teaching art classes at the school and getting a divorce. After over 15 years of marriage she ended things for various reasons that I wont disclose...but that guy was just not a nice man at all. After talking about what had happened and then sharing about how God had been gracious to her through it all, she looked at me and told me "choose wisely".
As girls, we like to think we have it the hardest. There's more effort that needs to be put in to looking presentable. We have to cram our feet into stilettos. We shave, pluck, wax and thread. We get a visit from "Aunt Flow" once a month. And when it comes to dating we are left powerless until some boy asks us to coffee. The waiting game is tough, but we aren't left completely powerless, if anything we have all the power in the world! (ok...maybe not the world) We have the power to graciously and kindly reject any invitations we receive.
Who you submit to for the rest of your life is at stake, ladies. So be picky. Choose wisely. Don't be rustling your leaves at some guy just because he's attractive or even just because he's seemingly godly. Choose wisely. Don't rely just on emotions or feelings that can be false and fleeting.
"In every date is a potential mate."
Choose wisely.
